I have wondered at times, while considering all the countless languages and individual differences, opinions and ways of thinking that exists, how could we agree on a language? How could 2 different humans point to a tree and agree on a word for it? Take into account all things needed to form a full and complete language that both people could understand and agree on.
سورة الرحمن ٤-٣
خَلَقَ الْإِنسَانَ
عَلَّمَهُ الْبَيَانَ
Surah Ar-Rahmaan 55:3-4
He has created man:
He has taught him speech (and intelligence).
Indeed, one of the most important and most powerful gifts we have received is our ability to communicate. Yet it’s not really something humans consider that much… like with many other things, it’s something we take for granted, but it is so essential to our existence. We need to communicate in order to make ourselves understood. If you consider human diversity, then our ability to speak and understand each other is by itself a miracle. So much so that such a miraculous gift is even used as an argument to point out the truth of the Qur’an.
سورة الذاريات ٢٣
فَوَرَبِّ السَّمَاءِ وَالْأَرْضِ إِنَّهُ لَحَقٌّ مِّثْلَ مَا أَنَّكُمْ تَنطِقُونَ
Surah Adh-Dhaariyat 51:23
Then, by the Lord of heaven and earth, this is the very Truth, as much as the fact that ye can speak intelligently to each other.
So, how do we use this gracious gift? This depend entirely on the person, humans strive towards different goals in life and in order to get what they want, they need to communicate it. But what is clear is not just how important it is to communicate, but also what we say. A word has more power than you may realize. A single word can cause pain, happiness, anger, or indifference. It can affect how people look at you and leave a lasting mark, either positive or negative. It is not weapons that brings war or peace, it is a word that starts the process. You may be familiar with the expression “the pen is mightier than the sword“? If you see such words through what I just said, then you may feel the weight of it. And taking all this into consideration, you realize just what kind of power our Creator has given to humans… through their ability to speak.
سورة الحجرات ١١
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَسْخَرْ قَوْمٌ مِّن قَوْمٍ عَسَىٰ أَن يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِّنْهُمْ وَلَا نِسَاءٌ مِّن نِّسَاءٍ عَسَىٰ أَن يَكُنَّ خَيْرًا مِّنْهُنَّ ۖ وَلَا تَلْمِزُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقَابِ ۖ بِئْسَ الِاسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الْإِيمَانِ ۚ وَمَن لَّمْ يَتُبْ فَأُولَـٰئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ
سورة النساء ٨٦
وَإِذَا حُيِّيتُم بِتَحِيَّةٍ فَحَيُّوا بِأَحْسَنَ مِنْهَا أَوْ رُدُّوهَا ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ حَسِيبًا
سورة الحجرات ١٣
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنَّا خَلَقْنَاكُم مِّن ذَكَرٍ وَأُنثَىٰ وَجَعَلْنَاكُمْ شُعُوبًا وَقَبَائِلَ لِتَعَارَفُوا ۚ إِنَّ أَكْرَمَكُمْ عِندَ اللَّهِ أَتْقَاكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرٌ
Surah Al-Hujuraat 49:11
O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): Nor let some women laugh at others: It may be that the (latter are better than the (former): Nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames: Ill-seeming is a name connoting wickedness, (to be used of one) after he has believed: And those who do not desist are (indeed) doing wrong.
Surah An-Nisaa 4:86
When a (courteous) greeting is offered you, meet it with a greeting still more courteous, or (at least) of equal courtesy. Allah takes careful account of all thing
Surah Al-Hujuraat 49:13
O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things).
Therefore, use the precious gift of speech for good. Don’t take it for granted. Your ability to speak is an invaluable opportunity to do good, to affect people, and you will be rewarded in more ways than one. For whatever reason you use it, your speech is a gift for which you can say one thing from the heart… alhamdulillah.
I hope you found this an inspiring input that brought something to consider.
The best of times to you all inshallah.
Peace, happiness, and stay faithful.
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Right,deep and good words, i appreciate ya teacher … but sometimes we try to do like what you described, just to use the words in a good way only, we try and try… To be more and more better and so close to Him..
But also in another times we need to use them normally too but with facing endless silence and just ignorance,that’s enough to force us to explode with a so bad results and a breaking for any other good things.
That’s painful for both sides i think?. To feel that you tried endless times to save your respectful words.. But suddenly because any other reason (ignorance for example) lead to so bad end.
You see the patience (to be so silent and patient) is the solution for such case? Or how we can deal in this?
Wish to hear a good answer 🙂
A very good input to consider, thank you for that 🌹😊
It can be difficult to restrain ourselves in such situations and we are only human. Speaking in general, if a person is not their normal selves, we can always try to encourage them to open up about it. We want to know what’s happened. In such cases, try to open your mind to the notion that there can be more possibilities than just one. In this, we can learn something from Surah Al-Kahf and imagine ourselves through these words…
سورة الكهف ٦٨
وَكَيْفَ تَصْبِرُ عَلَىٰ مَا لَمْ تُحِطْ بِهِ خُبْرًا
Surah Al-Kahf 18:68
“And how canst thou have patience about things about which thy understanding is not complete?”
When such feelings grow, we are often influenced by an idea that grows in the mind. We don’t know the full picture. We want an answer. But rather than saying “why are you ignoring me?”, we want to be less accusive and more open and put the person in the centre, to use a more humble way to encourage… “you are more quiet than usual, what’s wrong? Did I do anything? Did something happen?” See if that helps the person to open their heart, because whatever the reason is, it is clear that something is not ok. Of course, it depends entirely on the situation and who you are dealing with, all people have different ways of reacting to something, but it is always a good way to be a little sneaky and be more strategic to give the other person a push to reply 😊
Remember that anything in life is a trial. How we deal with situations, or what we learn from them is always important in order to grow 🌹
سورة الشورى ٤٣
وَلَمَن صَبَرَ وَغَفَرَ إِنَّ ذَٰلِكَ لَمِنْ عَزْمِ الْأُمُورِ
سورة فصلت ٣٥-٣٤
وَلَا تَسْتَوِي الْحَسَنَةُ وَلَا السَّيِّئَةُ ۚ ادْفَعْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ فَإِذَا الَّذِي بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٌ
وَمَا يُلَقَّاهَا إِلَّا الَّذِينَ صَبَرُوا وَمَا يُلَقَّاهَا إِلَّا ذُو حَظٍّ عَظِيمٍ
Surah Ash-Shura 42:43
But indeed if any show patience and forgive, that would truly be an exercise of courageous will and resolution in the conduct of affairs.
Surah Fussilat 41:34-35
Nor can goodness and Evil be equal. Repel (Evil) with what is better: Then will he between whom and thee was hatred become as it were thy friend and intimate!
And no one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise patience and self-restraint,- none but persons of the greatest good fortune.